The thing about three kids under five is that it’s incredibly unpredictable. And humbling. When the first child is an overachiever and performance driven type A personality, you start thinking “man, I got this!” as she is constantly taken for a child a few years older. From vocabulary to potty training, to learning to read and write, it just comes naturally. And I start to think it has something to do with me and my performance as a mom.
Then the second child is old enough to start communicating and displaying a little personality and you realize what you feared was true. They are different children. Where the first is driven by a need to please and perform and can be bribed to do just about anything, the second has no desire to do anything but what she feels is important at that very moment. A bribe means, quite literally, nothing. She often tells me exactly what is on her mind, even if it is “I’m mad at you mommy!” and I start to wonder if it has something to do with me and my performance as a mom.
It’s difficult not to favor the third, who is too tiny to mouth off or talk back or ask too many questions in a row. But even as a baby, his laid back and happy personality is shining forth, amazing me that three tiny people can come from the combination of me and their daddy, and be so drastically different.