I’ve read it a hundred times. Foster care and adoption are a waiting game. You rush through training, paperwork, meetings, getting your home ready, and then it stops. And you wait. You try to fill the stillness with something, but there’s really nothing you can do but wait.
We finished everything required of us for our foster care license in just over a month, including our home inspection and CPR training. Unfortunately the State of Nebraska was backlogged with background checks and ours took a little longer than usual. Mine came back this week, but James’s was rejected because he didn’t fill in his age on the form. Also, our home study was supposed to be written up and finalized a week and a half ago, but our agency was inundated with calls for placements for kids and our social worker got very busy, very quickly and our study was put on the back burner while we wait for James’s resubmitted background check from Nebraska.
At this point we have no idea if they can just redo the check immediately, or if it goes to the back of the line and we wait 6 more weeks.
After those last two bits of paperwork are finally finished, we will be officially licensed as Foster Parents in the state of NY! And then we simply wait.
Wait for a call that could change our lives.
And as we wait, I pray. I pray first and foremost that our home is never needed. I pray moms will love their babies more than their drug addiction. I pray dads will be sober and remember to feed their baby and change her diaper. I pray babies are held. Loved. Cherished.
I don’t want to be needed. Not like this. Not because it will be hard, but because I long for none of this to be a reality. And one day, it won’t be. But until then, we can’t just close our eyes and wish it wasn’t so. We can’t just say that’s too hard, I’m too busy, it would be too painful.
As Christians, when we start to fully grasp the truth of our own adoption into God’s family through the life, death and resurrection of Jesus, we cannot just sit back and hope for the best. In any situation. Jesus very specifically asked us to care for widows and orphans and in doing so we will be caring for him, and it will be so worth it when we finally meet him, face to face.
“Not every believer will take a pregnant teenager into his or her guest bedroom. Not every believer is called to adopt children. But every believer is called to recognize Jesus in the face of his little brothers and sisters when he decides to show up in their lives, even if it interrupts everything else.” (Adopted for Life, Russell Moore).